Rumer's Story, part 20

Neonatal & Palliative Care meeting: II

Thursday 2nd July 2015
27 weeks pregnant

Keen to bring the discussion back to treatment options, Chris proceeded to describe our understanding of the pregnancy risks and how we wanted to mitigate them (eg. close monitoring, c-section). He wanted to show our thinking about how to manage the obstetric problems, since that was what we were most familiar with at this point, thinking that that would give Ida an idea of the general approach we wanted to take in order to set the tone for the discussion about postnatal management. He also wanted to illustrate that we were realistic about the high rates of stillbirth and neonatal death; that we were going into this with our eyes open.

Rumer's Story, part 19

Neonatal & Palliative Care meeting: I

Thursday 2nd July 2015
27 weeks pregnant

So we got back to the now very busy Fetal Medicine Unit (FMU) waiting room around 12:20 and waited. And waited, and waited. At 1pm, half an hour after the appointment should have begun, we spotted the neonatal consultant, Ida Leigh, chatting to George Donnachie; he ushered her into his room in his usual charming manner. And we waited; we remarked to each other that had we known it would be this long, we'd have had some lunch – by this time we were very hungry after our early start.

Rumer's Story, part 18

Palliative care is not more important!

Wednesday 1st to Thursday 2nd July 2015
26 to 27 weeks pregnant

So on Wednesday, we were at home together for most of the day. We called the Fetal Medicine Unit (FMU) and left a message for Elysia Crouch, our link midwife there, to chase up the neonatology appointment. After the cardiology appointment the previous day, we were keen to get on with things and find out where we stood with the hospital. We knew that what we were considering – active treatment – was not the norm in the UK, and after some initial enquiries around the trisomy groups, we hadn't heard of any babies with trisomy 18 who had received it. So we were apprehensive about the appointment, and anticipated at least some initial scepticism.

Rumer's Story, part 17

Cardiology appointment

Tuesday 30th June to Wednesday 1st July 2015
26 weeks pregnant

So on the Tuesday, we went to our second cardiology appointment. Recalling how Professor Marshall had been happy to consider surgical options even in the most dire of situations last time, we were hopeful that he would remain open to considering these and other relevant treatments. However, we also knew that offering active treatment for babies with trisomy 18 was not usual practice in the UK, and we weren't sure whether the diagnosis would change his approach.

Palliative care vs active treatment

Stereotypes and Realities

Fundamentally, when you have a baby with T18, you are told you have two options to choose from* (of course, you may not in fact be offered one of these choices):

• Palliative care (also referred to as 'comfort care')
• Active treatment (also referred to as 'full treatment')

However, what you are told, or understand, about these choices is likely to be very different from the realities.

To a hospital somewhere in the UK

I wrote this letter when Rumer was 10 weeks old and in PICU, after an online friend shared her letter from a major UK hospital denying treatment for her unborn son with trisomy 18. I didn't plan to send it. The child was eventually given full treatment by another UK hospital. Names have been changed to protect the innocent (and not so innocent).

Research Friday: Does intervention prolong life?

Kosho T & Carey J (2016)

For our third Research Friday post, we thought we'd look at a recent paper that addresses a question that many physicians and parents often ask, and over which even more frequently disagree: does medical intervention actually improve survival in children with trisomy 18 (or trisomy 13)?

Rumer's Story, part 15

Not such a lethal diagnosis

Wednesday 24th to Saturday 27th June 2015
25 to 26 weeks pregnant

So we got on with our plans. We submitted an enquiry through the SOFT UK website. We ordered some tiny, tiny baby clothes online (from here and here), and Rumer's rainbow blanket.

Rumer's rainbow blanket!
We thought this would service nicely as her burial shroud.

Active treatment or palliative care?

Choosing an approach in trisomy 18

When your baby is first diagnosed with trisomy 18, you may well ask, "What can be done?" And you may get an answer from the medical team of, "Nothing." If it is a postnatal diagnosis you may assume they will continue to offer basic medical care, such as feeding and breathing support. If it is an antenatal diagnosis you may be told your baby will be "incompatible with life", and "We will keep baby comfortable."

However, this is not your only option. Fundamentally, when your child is diagnosed with trisomy 18, you have two choices:

Maximising your baby's survival potential

Or: How to have more time with your baby

Babies with trisomy 18 don't live long, apparently. If you believe half the medical professionals, if you get a week you're doing well, and a month - well, be grateful. Those who live a year are anomalies and you'll be told to be 'realistic' if you mention them. They haven't heard that there are actually adults with trisomy 18 - tell them the oldest known survivor was 50 years old and you'll be called a liar.