The myth of the irrational parent

Will parents really do anything to save their child?

This article by Zoe Williams in the Guardian today is just another in a long line of articles about the case of Charlie Gard saying exactly the same thing.

The accepted message is:

• The doctors are dispassionate and able to accept that the child is desperately ill and there is nothing to be done.
• The parents are desperate to save their child at any cost, will do anything at all to save him and are behaving in an irrational way; however this is okay because any parent would do the same.

Palliative care: calling a spade a spade

It's okay to choose palliative care. There, I've said it. It is okay to choose not to pursue full interventions for your child with trisomy. It's okay to have limits. Your limits may not be my limits; I even think there are ethical questions about failing to offer some interventions, but I also think that parents generally should have the right to act in whatever they perceive to be their child's best interests, and when there are no clear-cut, evidence-based answers as to what is in a child's best interests, I think parental choice should be deferred to. So it is okay to choose palliative care.