24 October 2017

Complaint about Rumer's care, part 1

One year ago today...

Today, 24th October 2017, marks a double anniversary. Not only is it Rumer's 25-month birthday, it is also one year today since we submitted a complaint to the hospitals that provided her care.

After Rumer died, we made requests under the Data Protection and Access to Medical Records acts for not only Rumer's hospital notes, but also all meeting minutes, emails and so on pertaining to her and/or us. It took us a long time to get them all and they came piecemeal and in no particular order. Even now, it seems unlikely that we have all the documents there were. For example, it has been claimed that one significant meeting was not minuted and that consultant meetings are routinely unminuted.

12 July 2017

The myth of the irrational parent

Will parents really do anything to save their child?


This article by Zoe Williams in the Guardian today is just another in a long line of articles about the case of Charlie Gard saying exactly the same thing.

The accepted message is:
  • The doctors are dispassionate and able to accept that the child is desperately ill and there is nothing to be done.
  • The parents are desperate to save their child at any cost, will do anything at all to save him and are behaving in an irrational way; however this is okay because any parent would do the same.

14 August 2016

Rumer's Story, part 20

Neonatal & Palliative Care meeting: II


Thursday 2nd July 2015
27 weeks pregnant


Keen to bring the discussion back to treatment options, Chris proceeded to describe our understanding of the pregnancy risks and how we wanted to mitigate them (eg. close monitoring, c-section). He wanted to show our thinking about how to manage the obstetric problems, since that was what we were most familiar with at this point, thinking that that would give Ida an idea of the general approach we wanted to take in order to set the tone for the discussion about postnatal management. He also wanted to illustrate that we were realistic about the high rates of stillbirth and neonatal death; that we were going into this with our eyes open.

1 August 2016

Rumer's Story, part 19

Neonatal & Palliative Care meeting: I


Thursday 2nd July 2015
27 weeks pregnant


So we got back to the now very busy Fetal Medicine Unit (FMU) waiting room around 12:20 and waited. And waited, and waited. At 1pm, half an hour after the appointment should have begun, we spotted the neonatal consultant, Ida Leigh, chatting to George Donnachie; he ushered her into his room in his usual charming manner. And we waited; we remarked to each other that had we known it would be this long, we'd have had some lunch – by this time we were very hungry after our early start.

18 July 2016

Rumer's Story, part 18

Palliative care is not more important!


Wednesday 1st to Thursday 2nd July 2015
26 to 27 weeks pregnant


So on Wednesday, we were at home together for most of the day. We called the Fetal Medicine Unit (FMU) and left a message for Elysia Crouch, our link midwife there, to chase up the neonatology appointment. After the cardiology appointment the previous day, we were keen to get on with things and find out where we stood with the hospital. We knew that what we were considering – active treatment – was not the norm in the UK, and after some initial enquiries around the trisomy groups, we hadn't heard of any babies with trisomy 18 who had received it. So we were apprehensive about the appointment, and anticipated at least some initial scepticism.

14 July 2016

Rumer's Story, part 17

Cardiology appointment


Tuesday 30th June to Wednesday 1st July 2015
26 weeks pregnant


So on the Tuesday, we went to our second cardiology appointment. Recalling how Professor Marshall had been happy to consider surgical options even in the most dire of situations last time, we were hopeful that he would remain open to considering these and other relevant treatments. However, we also knew that offering active treatment for babies with trisomy 18 was not usual practice in the UK, and we weren't sure whether the diagnosis would change his approach.